“I f23 found out that I was pregnant very recently, It was not planned and my husband and I are trying to make a decision regarding going through with the pregnancy,” a Reddit user posted. “Here’s the thing, I told him to not tell anyone but he ended up telling his mom but made her swear that she won’t tell. He didn’t tell her we aren’t sure about it but just to stay quiet. Well, she begged and begged that she announce it on her Facebook.”

 

The wife firmly told her no. That didn’t stop her mother-in-law, who logged onto her son’s Facebook account to share the news, all while pretending to be her son. Yikes.

“I was floored I called her and she said she figured if she made the announcement using one of our social media accounts then we won’t mind and it’d still look like we made the announcement,” the Reddit user continued. “But like I stated earlier, we’re still trying to make a decision.” The wife lost her temper and started yelling, which made her mother-in-law cry.

Things started to get even worse after that. “My husband came into the room yelling about my poor treatment and abuse towards his mom. I told him his mom violated our privacy and put us in more pressure to finally make a decision for the baby since the family are now calling to say ‘congratulations,’” the user explained. “He said that it was his fb so none of my privacy was “violated”and that I shouldn’t have yelled and hurt her feelings and made her cry no matter what, period.”

Now, the husband wants his wife to go to the mother-in-law’s house and “grovel with apologies” — which she definitely doesn’t want to do.

“AITA?” the Reddit user asked.

The definitive response was, no, she definitely was not. “NTA- this moment should tell you everything about the support you will get from both your husband and MIL in both stressful and private situations,” one person wrote. “Her behavior and his support won’t get better with the addition of an infant. Use this information to guide your decisions on the future.”

Another added: “Remember this is YOUR decision. Not his. Not his mothers. YOURS because it’s your body. I would take some time to think long and hard about the life you really want for you and your child because this is how everything will go. He will always run to mom. It seems like maybe he’s trying to force your hand in having the child by allowing his mother to make these ‘mistakes.’”

Someone else flat out suggested that she leave her husband. “I’d reconsider the marriage,” the person wrote. “You don’t want to raise a kid with a man who will side with his mother under any circumstances. Parenting with a partner is tough enough… parenting with a partner who defers to mommy is impossible.”

What do you think? Whose side are you on?