Andy had thought nothing could separate him and his woman, except death, of course. Little did he know that a medical situation called genotype would severe a relationship he had built for a long time.
Problem started when his fiancee got pregnant and the pregnancy was a troubled one, they had to go to the clinic and after a few tests, they found out they were both ‘AS’ and the child was at risk. Afterward, their relationship began to dissolve little by little till the tiniest fiber was gone. Andy, who is yet to get over it, seemed to be looking for his ex in every woman that came his way.
“We had been together for eight years. I met her in her first year in school. We were two young lovers. Then we were more concerned about loving ourselves, being together, and planning for a future together. Nothing else mattered. She was such a beautiful soul, the only woman that never troubled me or gave me reasons to be jealous or afraid of losing her. She was loyal and very respectful and responsible, too.
“While in school, I took care of her basic needs, the ones I could afford, and she was contented with what I gave her. Then I was already working after my technical school. I am a chef. I bake cakes and I am also into event decorations.
“Our problem started when she got pregnant. That was after she graduated. We were preparing to wed and we had already done our introduction. Then she started having complications. We went to the hospital and she ran some tests, and because she didn’t know her genotype, we did that. It was then we found out that she was AS. I had to do mine also and it came out ‘AS’ too.
“We became really afraid after what the doctor told us could happen to our child if we insisted on having the baby. In the end, the doctor had to evacuate the baby. Afterward, we were both heartbroken. What then happened to our beautiful love was a sad story I refused to accept. We couldn’t separate from each other. I was even willing to adopt children if possible just to be with her forever, but she refused. She told me it was unwise, that she wanted to have children of her own. She began to avoid me, and even stopped talking to me. Then she started entertaining other men. I caught her with one but she told me she had moved on. How could you move on so fast and easily? I asked her. Meanwhile I was still there nursing my wound.
She is married today and I am still here looking for a woman like her. Since then all the women I have met have not been what I want. I am not always comfortable with them; they don’t fit into my dream woman. I still hope that she would come back to me someday. I wouldn’t mind accepting her back in my life.”
Dear Andy, I think you are still hurting and have not fully come to terms with the fact that your last relationship was over. She is married now and she is not coming back to you, and you need to move on. Stop looking for her in other women because no two women are the same. I think you need to seek professional help in assisting you to recover fully before getting into another relationship. Now this should be a lesson to unmarried people: before the relationship gets deep, try to check if both of your genotypes are compatible, and run tests for other medical conditions.
