Sex before marriage is and has always been a hot topic of discussion and everyone seems to have an opinion.
Our opinions about this subject are often shaped by our values, beliefs, and background, and it can be a hard decision to make.
One obvious advantage of sex before marriage is that it allows you to find out if you are compatible with your partner as it pertains to bedroom matters. If you are incompatible, you both go your separate ways. After all, a lifetime is too long to be miserable.
The downside of sex before marriage is that it comes with the usual risk of unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases. A reason for this is partners aren’t bound by anything and they can stray and have as many partners as they wish.
Still can’t make up your mind about whether to or not have sex before marriage? Here is a look at some angles and perspectives that might help you make up your mind.
African Culture And Sex Before Marriage
In most African cultures, sex before marriage was largely frowned upon, in fact, it was a taboo. Women who went against this rule were severely punished. Their male counterparts on the other hand didn’t get much in the way of punishment. Double standards and hypocrisy, right? Let’s not even go there.
To counter their hard stance on sex before marriage, many communities married off their young before the onset of adolescence, genius right? What better way to avert early sex than to encourage it within the institution of early marriage?
Religion And Sex Before Marriage
Next is from the religious point of view. Most if not all religions are against sex before marriage. In Christianity and Islam, they have even gone a step further and given it a name; “fornication” and there are dire consequences for this perceived sin.
A problem that arises from this take is, sex is demonised as a whole. Much later in marriage, many religious people may have a difficulty in seeing it as anything but a way of procreation. They aren’t taught that sex is also beautiful and natural and it is to be enjoyed by both males and females.
Modern Views On Sex Before Marriage
Finally, to the modern view, where there are those for and those against sex before marriage with a running concern from both camps being explicit overexposure to sexual content which is fueled and made more accessible by technology.
From all the above perspectives it’s clear there is a tendency to gravitate against sex before marriage although there have always been loopholes for people to engage in sex much earlier.
Final Take
Sex before marriage has its pros and cons, and our views about it have been influenced by culture, religion, and background.
Before making your decision to go for it, consider other factors too like how you feel about your partner and if the feeling is mutual, the available safety precautions, and of course, your consent.
