- A wife’s suggestion left her husband confused and took to social media to seek advice
- The man said his wife of 10 years gave him permission to sleep with other women despite being intimate with her only
- The man’s post ignited mixed reactions online, with many saying open relationships do not work, advising the man to stay faithful
A relationship of 10 years might be on the rocks after a wife gave her husband permission to sleep with other women.
Do open relationships work?
The worried man took to Reddit.com to share his dilemma, asking what he could do. He said he had only been intimate with his wife and was not sure how to do it with someone else.
He revealed his wife is pansexual, meaning she is attracted to all genders.
“She said I could sleep with other women as long as I never told her about it. She’s the only person I’ve done sexy stuff with, so I know doing it with someone else would be a big change for me. I feel super conflicted because I’ve always been sexually curious, but I desperately don’t want to ruin our marriage. Keeping it secret (which she requested) feels wrong, but she specifically asked to be left in the dark,” he posted.
Sharing their two cents on the man’s situation, below i what netizens had to say
GreedyNegotiation160 said:
“It sounds like she’s really insecure and is giving you permission to sleep with other women so it’s impossible for you to cheat on her, and also make you less likely to leave her as you’ll still be fulfilling your sexual needs elsewhere.”
Life-Coach_421 said:
“I agree she isn’t really happy with the idea too. If you want to keep your marriage, I’d tell her you thought about it, but decided you want to keep that intimacy with only her…. I’m pretty sure trying to talk deeper and set boundaries and flesh things out are going to have the opposite effect you might hope for. If she is already struggling with feelings of inadequacy that will make it 10 times worse. Remember, sometimes people imagine they can handle things that when faced with them in reality they can’t.”
Canyousteeraship said:
“She needs couples therapy with you. Discussions are great, but if she’s not working through these feelings, your relationship will implode. It’s fine to be poly if that was an agreed-upon decision while entering the relationship. It’s another to do it because one partner feels like they’re failing the other. The latter is not a healthy decision. Get to a therapist that can help you two figure this out.”
1Hugh_Janus advised:
“As someone who was a swinger in a long-term relationship… don’t do it if you love your wife. You will regret it. 5 years of swinging, not a single couple from back then (over 38 last time I counted) is still together.”
Trvllvr said:
“Would you be okay with your wife sleeping with someone else? If not, then stick with the rule of thumb of don’t do anything you wouldn’t be comfortable with my wife doing. If your wife is feeling pressure, stress, or general lack of intimate drive, maybe consider therapy to work through whatever she is struggling.You could work on communication and both your feelings surrounding any issues around sex.
Kenyans’ take on open relationship
Previously, Kenyans online who participated in a TUKO.co.ke poll agreed that open relationships do not work and should not be encouraged at all.
Sources had asked fans: Would you allow your bae to freely have a mistress/side-dude for the survival of the relationship?
Some people believed it is okay to be in an open relationship, while the majority believed people should be faithful in their unions or remain single.
